The end of decade

It did not hit me until I was watching a video earlier today and the women made a comment about the new decade coming... New decade where has the last 10 years gone and where was I when went by….

Since it’s the holiday season you sit back and reflect on your life and ask yourself; “Did I accomplish everything I wanted to this year or did I miss something along the way?”

I started thinking since is the end of a decade what did I do and what have I accomplished in my life. When the new millennium began January 1st, 2000 I was employed with a company that I had been working with for 11 years, a home owner and single. Then a few months later I was unemployed and looking to find myself at 31 years of age.

I decided to take some time off and reflect on what direction I wanted to go and see what else was out there. I started a new job with a new division and we were promised it would only get better. Which I know now did not happen and the only good thing about it was I met my future husband. As I say “Everything happens for a reason.”

We were married a year later and two years after he put us on a journey across the United States to see a different part of the country because of his career choice. We lived in a new state and started a family with our son who has been the apple of my eye and the pain in my butt. At the same time I found out the first man in my life was diagnosed with cancer and only had 3 to 6 months to live. Which when your pregnant isn’t the best kind of news. Luckily we had him for almost a year after his initial diagnosis and he was able to meet his grandson, which meant the world to him and me.

Soon after our son’s second birthday we moved back to be closer to our family and shared of great times with them. Our son has been able to know his cousins, Aunt’s, Uncle and his grandparents.

As a woman I have grown in many ways I have learned how to deal with transition, new surrounding, marriage, new beginnings and endings. The past 10 years I have reached into myself and have learned you need to strong at times when you don’t want to be and let your guard down so you don’t go crazy.

I’m sure the new decade will have its ups and downs which I look forward to challenging myself to be better wife, mom, daughter, sister, and friend and take care of myself. So with this I wish every one of you a wonderful, safe holiday season where you can enjoy your family and friends.

Have a very Merry Christmas & happy New Year. So until next year enjoy yourselves.

Being a stay at home mom

I've been in the process of seeking employment outside the home for several years now and it's been one disappointment after another. I was on an interview a few weeks ago and it seemed promising as the position was something I had already done in my past. When I contacted the agency who had posted the position they informed me by email that I did not get the job stating the employer needed someone with more qualifications. This I can understand and in turn I sent them an email stating if they had any additional openings to keep me in mind. So far nothing!

Well this week I hear from some of the other moms on how they are getting jobs and working which I'm very happy for them. It just seems no matter what I do I haven't been able to find some one who is willing work with a mom who has been out of the "WORKFORCE" for over 6 years. I understand why women continue working while having a family for this very reason people do not understand why you stopped and when you explain they give you odd looks or ask why do you want to work now.

As with anyone I need to increase our family income to pay bills, plan a vacation and pay for the education I received to assist me in finding a better career. Please do not get me work I love being a stay at home mom but I need to have a role outside the home which I call my own and become successful again as I was being single.

A stay at home mom covers so much - Logistics is the management of the flow of goods, information and other resources, including energy and people, between the point of origin and the point of consumption in order to meet the requirements of consumers (frequently, and originally, military organizations). Logistics involves the integration of information, transportation, inventory, warehousing, material-handling, and packaging, and occasionally security. Logistics is a channel of the supply chain which adds the value of time and place utility. Logistics. (2009, November 28). In Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia. Retrieved 22:45, December 6, 2009, from http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Logistics&oldid=328381009

This is me in so many ways....

Hard to believe

Being a military spouse you expect your loved one(s) to get hurt or injured or the possibility of being killed due to their profession they decided to do. The one thing you don't expect it to happen here on our soil but it did. On November 7th it happened here and what a shock to all of us as military family and the rest of country. One of the men my husband has worked with for the last 2 years and who showed us around at our new duty station was one of the one injured in this shooting. My husband was able to speak with him this week and he told him will have a reminder in his shoulder for the rest of his life.

It upset's me and I cannot find the words to express how I feel about this and what took place. All I can say is to the men & women who protect us is thank you and I
prayers go out to everyone one of you and your family.

Thank you for everything you do to make our little part of world safe!

News

When I started this blog my intention was to write about me being a military spouse and my family. Well today I saw something in the news that just made me frustrated and upset about fashion world’s view a women’s physical appearance. Now I know it the fashion industry and this has been going on since it started but I cannot see to a point why the models need to be thinner.

After my son leaves to go to school I get a chance to watch some television and I decided to watch the “The Today Show” which was fine but the segment that touched me was the one they had on “Size 4 model I was fired for being to fat” Okay what’s wrong with this picture?

I’m not trying to preach to anyone but it upsets me when we your telling this women who works in the modeling industry she is “TOO FAT” at 120 pounds, 5’10 and wears a size 4. What size do we need to be in order to fit in with what they feel is the right look?

Growing up I was big girl as they like to put it and the girls in my school made sure to let me know by picking on my weight or the clothing I was wearing. I did not fit in with the socially excepted girls of the area and that was part of the reason why stayed to myself growing up. Getting picked on is part of growing up; Right! The part that concerns me the most is the interpretation this company has of what a women should look like. I have two little girls who I love dearly (my nieces) and the oldest one is at the age where appearance is part of social acceptance which makes me wonder what kind of affect will this have on them later.

Being a girl in the internet world is harder and I’m sure some of you have seen it in the news where girls are blasting their friends in emails or texting them about someone in their school not to like them because just don’t look like the rest. My point to this posting is to be good to yourself, love yourself first and don’t think about what someone else’s view is about you because they do not have a good view of themselves. I went through my photos of what I looked like as a teenager and I have to say I did not look half bad just needed a better haircut. What I really needed was someone willing to show me how to be healthier, eat the right way and to like me for me.

Changes

Great things come to end.... Being a military family we meet and become great people and it's so hard to see them go onto another duty station. It's funny when left our last one the only part I missed what the state (Texas) and this time I'm going to miss the group of men my husband has been working with. They are off to new duty stations along with their families and one recently got married because he met her here.

I feel bad for her because she has only know about being military spouse for the last 5 months and now he is going away and she doesn't know which way is up or down. Since we are going to still be here in NJ she is staying behind here as well until they know what he will be doing. Which I think is a big mistake but he could be gone anyway. If your in the military you understand we need to have orders in order to move to another location he just not sure if this will be it or more. So they decided to have her stay behind and continue working until they know more but it's making it hard for her to do this because they just got married and he doesn't tell her too much as to how things work.

I wish we had more of manual at times for these types of situations. Till next time have a great day!!!!

One month down

Almost one month into school and I need to learn how to teach my son to stay away from some of the kids in school as they will be getting him into trouble with capital "T"

I know boys will be boys but it's so hard to figure out the right way to make him understand that this little may be a great kid he just isn't the one you want to be hanging out with right now. I saw the little boy today and he walks up to so my son and cough's right in his face. So is this a new way of saying "Hello" what? Last week another little boy kept holding on to my son (hugging)him so tightly that Michael started telling me this right before he went to bed. I asked him how he felt about out and he said he did not like it. So I suggested to him that he would need to tell the little boy to stop and that they can be friends just no touching and that you have your space and so does he.

I wish I could understand this and get him to figure this out and I know it will not happen right away after all he is only 4 years old. It will get better.

Take 2

Okay last week it was big deal with school which started out great but we ran into problems. We had to go and speak to the teacher would bring him outside and when we came back he was crying. It did not stop from there at all... This was his first time being left some where with people he did not know and of course the tears came. I had the hardest time with him on the 2nd day of school and then on 3r & 4th day he was home sick as he worked himself up so much.

So Monday is "Take 2" they say so here we! Wish us good luck!